Dieting: It’s Not for the Birds and It’s Not for You

This week I’m sharing a conversation that I have had with a lot of patients lately. They want to weigh less, they know that it’s better for their health, but they cannot figure out how to make it work. I tell them that making it work requires a frame shift, a change in the way you think about food. When we talk about what that means for them, I see the lights go on in their eyes and their expressions. It’s slightly magical, every time. They leave with renewed faith and self-confidence, not to mention relief. It was never about dieting. It was about the food. Continue reading


Remembering What You Want

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How to Make a Life

Connie and her husband Duane were my parents’ closest of friends for upwards of 40 years. They drove to Cleveland from their home in the hills of northwest New Jersey to crawl into bed with my father in his last days, to whisper their love for him, to share some memories, and to be, as always, the best friends they could be. My parents shared thousands and thousands and thousands of memories with Connie and Duane throughout the years. Their shared love for their Afghan hounds and Belgian sheepdogs, their joyful July 4th celebrations, hundreds and hundreds of weekly Sunday dinners, restaurant meals, New Years Eve parties, Thanksgiving graces, glasses of light red Beaujolais, local and national dog shows, chaffeuring one other, Zooming together, housesitting, and endless games of Trivial Pursuit. How do you make a life? How do friends and neighbors become transformed into family? This is how. Continue reading


Love Thy Neighbors

It hardly feels adequate to say that my friends and neighbors took over for a few days a couple of weeks ago when the truth is that they swooped in with food, soups, bread, hand sanitizer, and essential oils, not to mention apple-ginger muffins wrapped in handmade dish towels (recipe below). There were many hugs and nods of understanding, for these were the people who knew and appreciated my dad in his last days, stopping by with quarts of homemade chicken noodle soup, doing reiki treatments for the sheer generosity of it, and bringing pans of chicken and rice, my dad’s favorite chopped salad, fish and stewed tomatoes, and more. Nothing escaped their caring eyes. Continue reading


In Memoriam — Ira S. Breines

This past Wednesday evening, my father Ira died at the age of 88 in his own bed, with his family nearby. He asked us not to be too sad, because he had “a wonderful life and an amazing family.” We all had a chance to tell him we loved him, and to thank him. His was certainly a life well lived.

He had absolutely everything to do with this blog, and with my love of nourishing food and good health.

He and my mom were the original hipsters. They each grew up in a tiny Brooklyn apartment, where they dreamt of farming, gardening, animals, and open air. And so, three children later, they found themselves on a small farm in West Central New Jersey where they lived for the next 44 years with their menagerie of sheep, steer, chickens, French guinea hens, peacocks, geese, cats, and generations of Belgian Sheepdogs.

The guiding principle of Ira’s life was food: growing, raising, cooking, sharing, and eating it. Meals at my parents’ home were abundant and legendary, their table a haven of generosity. When guests dropped by unexpectedly, as they did all the time, my parents simply leaned forward, pulled an endleaf from the table, and invited guests to “Pull up a chair!” Later in life, Ira shared that if he had it all to do over again, he would have become a chef. Chef Ira.

In their home, my parents embodied the imperative to let all who are hungry come and eat. In New Jersey, over the years, my father drove hundreds of pounds of grass-fed beef to the local food bank, where it was gratefully accepted and distributed. His generosity was felt far and wide, and he will be missed by so very many.

Thank you, Dad. We will miss you.


Celebrating the Fourth of July

Below is one of my favorite posts, posted originally on July 4, 2010:

It’s the fourth of July today, and my family has converged on the family farm for the great annual bash. On and off since yesterday evening, strapping grandsons have been carrying cartons of beer, wine, soda, water, and iced tea up to the deck, where great drums of ice stand ready to receive them all. Continue reading


Mom’s Birthday

Today is my mother’s birthday, the first since she passed away almost a year ago. In just a few weeks, we will observe her first yahrtzeit, the first anniversary of her passing. So much has happened this year, and we have all struggled mightily to find our way. When I think about telling her everything that has happened, it feels more like a dystopian novel than the truth. But it’s not all bad. Even though the past few months of winter have been particularly challenging, I am looking forward to returning once more to spending loads of time outdoors. And in view of the rising rates of vaccination, I am certain that next winter will be much better. Yesterday afternoon I sat outside in the sun for an hour with my husband, son-in-law, and daughter even though the temperature was only in the 20’s here in Cleveland. It was freezing, but that did not stop us from enjoying a plate of chocolates — handmade by my son’s friend in Jerusalem — and a bottle of Pavo Real wine, whose label displays a beautiful peacock feather. Mom really loved her peacocks, and her house was filled with their feathers. She would have loved that. Continue reading


The View from You

It’s a conversation that has lasted for more than twenty years, one book at a time, one month at a time. On this particular evening, long before the coronavirus, two members of our book group, Suze and Lynda, have folded themselves, side by side, into two big chairs separated by a small table. Dee, our host this month, lies nearby on the floor, her head on a large, soft cushion. Continue reading


Set an Intention

These are not easy days, to say the least. But one thing that really helps me is to start each day by setting an intention.

What does that mean? Well, I might say to myself, “Today, I will take a few deep breaths.” Or, “I will keep my eyes on the road.” Or, “I will be kind to myself.” Intentions can be abstract or concrete. They can help you study, close your eyes, or stretch your arms to the ceiling a couple of times a day. They can let you stay in bed, ask for a back rub, take a long bath. Intentions are multi-purpose, which is an essential part of their charm. I weave them into the fabric of my days, and they make my weeks more interesting, resilient, even productive. The possibilities are endless. Continue reading


Gratitude for the Harvest 2020

At this time of year, I often have the privilege of receiving a large number of food gifts, and I make it my goal to share as many as possible, forwarding the depth and breadth of the bounty that arrives on my doorstep as the season of harvest arrives. Here is what is possible. Continue reading